They call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.”
It is when youstop going along with the crowd and start realizingthat there are many things about yourself that youdidn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you willbe in a year or two, but then get scared because youbarely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that,maybe, those friends that you thought you were soclose to aren’t exactly the greatest people you haveever met, and the people you have lost touch with aresome of the most important ones.
What you don’trecognize is that they are realizing that too, andaren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but thatthey are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close towhat you thought you would be doing, or maybe you arelooking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you havecertain boundaries in your life and are constantlyadding things to your list of what is acceptable andwhat isn’t.
One minute, you are insecure and then thenext, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of yourlife.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling onto the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there isnothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone youloved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bedand wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enoughthat you want to get to know better. Or maybe you lovesomeone but love someone else too and cannot figureout why you are doing this because you know that youaren’t a bad person. One night stands and random hookups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to lookpathetic. You go through the same emotions andquestions over and over, and talk with your friendsabout the same topics because you cannot seem tomake a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making alife for yourself… and while winning the race wouldbe great, right now you’d just like to be a contender!What you may not realize is that everyone reading thisrelates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times,trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thingout.
quarter life crisis....
It seems to me that I once again started to spiral out of control again… Decisions I made have left me with the feeling of hopelessness that things will never work out… I am not strong… Things that I hoped for things that I wished and believed so strongly that would come true…Have crumpled…
I am exhausted with people… Exhausted with the false positives …
Examples, oh I got them… People telling me what an amazing person I am… Cause I can only think of the negative… "Really you think I am nice?" Then why do my friends think I am a flake… "I am having a bad day, I just feel like chilling"… "Well come out with us we are gonna have so much fun" … Someone explain to me how drinking and going to a club and watching your friends get hit on by everyone while you get pushed aside is helping… Oh here is a good one… when you go out with someone and they can't stop texting someone else… Here is the evil truth… If you want to go out with me have the decency to make me feel like you want to be with me… put your phone down and make me feel like I am important to you…
This past year has put me through relationship hell…
And when I started out writing this blog I had all the intensions of keeping it positive… But people instead of taking ownership of their problems they tend to make them yours… I have a thousand pounds resting on my shoulders… And I am collapsing from with in…
Oh please feet don't fail me now…
So like I said I wanted to keep it positive…Because I like many others have lost hope in relationships,
And even more that true, everlasting, soul mate love...
Today, a little old man, who came into my work, may have made my cold heart warm again and quite possibly renewed my faith. I was helping him out, and he looked at me, and said, "Wanna see a picture of a pretty lady?" I said sure, and he opened his wallet and showed me a black and white picture of a beautiful woman in her fifties or sixties…
It was such a glamorous shot, and I had never realized that it was possible to still be so remarkably beautiful at that age… I asked him if the woman was his wife…
His response "Yes...she's in a nursing home now. I go to visit her every day. Three and a half years, and I've never missed a day..." As if that wasn't sweet enough, when I asked how long they'd been married, to see if maybe it was one of those later-in-life marriages that was still in the puppy love type stage.... Again he looked at me, and said, "58 years today", smiling slightly… I smiled at him and said that his wife was a very lucky woman, and in all seriousness, he looked at me and said, "No...I'm the lucky one she is my everything, my reason for living"
It touched me so much that it made me want to cry…
To see a man so in love with his wife, 58 years later was so wonderful...
I hope I have a love like that someday...I really really do...
I am exhausted with people… Exhausted with the false positives …
Examples, oh I got them… People telling me what an amazing person I am… Cause I can only think of the negative… "Really you think I am nice?" Then why do my friends think I am a flake… "I am having a bad day, I just feel like chilling"… "Well come out with us we are gonna have so much fun" … Someone explain to me how drinking and going to a club and watching your friends get hit on by everyone while you get pushed aside is helping… Oh here is a good one… when you go out with someone and they can't stop texting someone else… Here is the evil truth… If you want to go out with me have the decency to make me feel like you want to be with me… put your phone down and make me feel like I am important to you…
This past year has put me through relationship hell…
And when I started out writing this blog I had all the intensions of keeping it positive… But people instead of taking ownership of their problems they tend to make them yours… I have a thousand pounds resting on my shoulders… And I am collapsing from with in…
Oh please feet don't fail me now…
So like I said I wanted to keep it positive…Because I like many others have lost hope in relationships,
And even more that true, everlasting, soul mate love...
Today, a little old man, who came into my work, may have made my cold heart warm again and quite possibly renewed my faith. I was helping him out, and he looked at me, and said, "Wanna see a picture of a pretty lady?" I said sure, and he opened his wallet and showed me a black and white picture of a beautiful woman in her fifties or sixties…
It was such a glamorous shot, and I had never realized that it was possible to still be so remarkably beautiful at that age… I asked him if the woman was his wife…
His response "Yes...she's in a nursing home now. I go to visit her every day. Three and a half years, and I've never missed a day..." As if that wasn't sweet enough, when I asked how long they'd been married, to see if maybe it was one of those later-in-life marriages that was still in the puppy love type stage.... Again he looked at me, and said, "58 years today", smiling slightly… I smiled at him and said that his wife was a very lucky woman, and in all seriousness, he looked at me and said, "No...I'm the lucky one she is my everything, my reason for living"
It touched me so much that it made me want to cry…
To see a man so in love with his wife, 58 years later was so wonderful...
I hope I have a love like that someday...I really really do...
God-willing, I’m turning 26 in a couple days. I’m in an internal tizzy about this, as I probably will be for every upcoming birthday from now on...
26 is messing with me...
Its offically the beginning of my mid-twentys...
I have nothing to show for the last couple years of my life except bar recepits... Damm...
26 is messing with me...
Its offically the beginning of my mid-twentys...
I have nothing to show for the last couple years of my life except bar recepits... Damm...
Ilovelamp
I'd rather sit in silence than endure small talk...:
I love people watching and I'm fascinated by human nature and the criminal mind. When I see a guy fleeing from the police, on the local news, all I can think about is what his life must have been like for him to get to that point.
I have an unusual amount of empathy.
Referees and bar tenders don't like me. I understand the referee thing but I will never understand the bartender thing.
I love football baseball and basketball. Nothing better then a "game day" Sunday.
I want a big dog named Denali.
I love boy names for girls.
Old school nintendo video games are my absolute favorite.
At times I have the maturity of a 15 yr old girl.
I say what I feel, it isn't always appreciated, therefore, I don't always say what I feel.
I'm hard to read.
I'm drawn to confident people.
I admire happy people. Happiness isn't always one's natural disposition, it is often a choice.
I fear being thought of as boring.
I'm not every other girl you've dated.
I love movies.
I've been suspended from school for pulling down a guys pants.
I hate guys in flip flops. I hate when a guy complains that you stepped on his toes at a bar.
I'm a sucker for dimples and guys who wear glasses
Laughter is good. My sister can make me laugh she is amazing even if she sprayed windex in my eyes
I'm affectionate. I love kids but have no desire to give birth
I may adopt someday.
I could sit and watch people trip & fall all day long, nothing is funnier to me.
My friends are my family. My family means the world to me, I hope they know that.
I love pizza, sandwiches and mexican food
With enough booze and if the DJ plays Billie Jean or PYT I can do a mean Michael Jackson.
Friendship is the core of every relationship without it why bother.
I am a realist.
I'm going back to school.
I am not capable of settling.
I don't open up as much as I should.
I recently realized I'd rather love than be loved and I'm not sure what to make of that.
I don't believe in an all or nothing philosophy, organized religion isn't for me.
For the first time in a long time my family is as whole as it will ever be and that feels good.
If I can hear the ocean from my bedroom, I know I'm where I'm supposed to be
I love people watching and I'm fascinated by human nature and the criminal mind. When I see a guy fleeing from the police, on the local news, all I can think about is what his life must have been like for him to get to that point.
I have an unusual amount of empathy.
Referees and bar tenders don't like me. I understand the referee thing but I will never understand the bartender thing.
I love football baseball and basketball. Nothing better then a "game day" Sunday.
I want a big dog named Denali.
I love boy names for girls.
Old school nintendo video games are my absolute favorite.
At times I have the maturity of a 15 yr old girl.
I say what I feel, it isn't always appreciated, therefore, I don't always say what I feel.
I'm hard to read.
I'm drawn to confident people.
I admire happy people. Happiness isn't always one's natural disposition, it is often a choice.
I fear being thought of as boring.
I'm not every other girl you've dated.
I love movies.
I've been suspended from school for pulling down a guys pants.
I hate guys in flip flops. I hate when a guy complains that you stepped on his toes at a bar.
I'm a sucker for dimples and guys who wear glasses
Laughter is good. My sister can make me laugh she is amazing even if she sprayed windex in my eyes
I'm affectionate. I love kids but have no desire to give birth
I may adopt someday.
I could sit and watch people trip & fall all day long, nothing is funnier to me.
My friends are my family. My family means the world to me, I hope they know that.
I love pizza, sandwiches and mexican food
With enough booze and if the DJ plays Billie Jean or PYT I can do a mean Michael Jackson.
Friendship is the core of every relationship without it why bother.
I am a realist.
I'm going back to school.
I am not capable of settling.
I don't open up as much as I should.
I recently realized I'd rather love than be loved and I'm not sure what to make of that.
I don't believe in an all or nothing philosophy, organized religion isn't for me.
For the first time in a long time my family is as whole as it will ever be and that feels good.
If I can hear the ocean from my bedroom, I know I'm where I'm supposed to be
R.I.P
Harry Hairdryer had a passion for life and a head for business, but it was the way that he dried the hair of the people around him that his owner remembers him the best…
"There will never be another like him" loyal owner said "He leaves all of us with wonderful memories of joy and laughter and the gift beautifully blown dry hair"
It was Mr. Hairdryers unique combination of keen intelligence, clarity of thought, sharp wit, warmth, and amazing meandering ability led to his extraordinary success… Born in Scottsdale, Mr. Hairdryers attended prestige institutes to further his education on drying hair and participated in many committees and organizations within the hair drying community…
Mr. Hairdryer, 88 years old, died Tuesday March 13, in his North Phoenix home after a long battle with shorting out and getting hair caught in his motor…
Mr. Hairdryer enjoyed traveling around the country with his owner…
Besides his residence in North Phoenix, Mr. Hairdryer owned a summer home in the bathroom drawer where he kept up with all the hair-styles and "up-do's" by reading Cosmo's…
Harry Hairdryer is survived by his lifelong friend and owner Courtney…
Visitations will be Saturday March 17th, 2007, followed a night of drinking at the tilted kilt and the Dubliner…
"There will never be another like him" loyal owner said "He leaves all of us with wonderful memories of joy and laughter and the gift beautifully blown dry hair"
It was Mr. Hairdryers unique combination of keen intelligence, clarity of thought, sharp wit, warmth, and amazing meandering ability led to his extraordinary success… Born in Scottsdale, Mr. Hairdryers attended prestige institutes to further his education on drying hair and participated in many committees and organizations within the hair drying community…
Mr. Hairdryer, 88 years old, died Tuesday March 13, in his North Phoenix home after a long battle with shorting out and getting hair caught in his motor…
Mr. Hairdryer enjoyed traveling around the country with his owner…
Besides his residence in North Phoenix, Mr. Hairdryer owned a summer home in the bathroom drawer where he kept up with all the hair-styles and "up-do's" by reading Cosmo's…
Harry Hairdryer is survived by his lifelong friend and owner Courtney…
Visitations will be Saturday March 17th, 2007, followed a night of drinking at the tilted kilt and the Dubliner…
truths....
"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than the facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our pasts, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens and 90 percent how I react to it. And so it is with you - we are in charge of our attitudes."
-- CHARLES SWINDOLL
-- CHARLES SWINDOLL
NOTforTHEWEAKofheart
To think is to disreguard your heart's directions, To love is to disreguard the world's...
Love makes us all a little weaker, but in the end we all turn out a little stronger...
If a relationship is going to evolve, it must go through a series of endings...
You know when you're singing along with this song, and you know all the words cause you really love it. Then a train passes or a door closes, and you can't hear the music anymore, but you keep singing anyway. Then, when you can hear it again, you're still perfectly in time with it. Well, that's what love is....
Do you ever just put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that's what love is like; everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but for some reason you just keep going -practical magic
I wanted to give you a kiss, but I couldn't. I wanted to give you a hug, but I couldn't. I at least wanted to hold your hand, but I couldn't do that either, because you are so far away. So I gave you the one thing I could. My heart... (AIN'T THIS THE TRUTH)
To get a woman's heart, a man must first use his own...
We kiss. And it feels like we have just shrugged off the world -Jim Shahin
That's what love is all about- recklessly hurting each other, insanley loving each other...
Now some people say that you shouldn't tempt fate, and for them I would not disagree, but I never learned anything from playing it safe, I say fate should not tempt me...
I guess nobody ever really does mean to fall in love. But it happens and love brands itself on your brain. It's like a new street appearing overnight in the city you've lived in your whole life. The street is one way; you can't turn around and get off it. It curves up ahead so that you can only see far enough to know that you're heading into the unknown...
I've never felt like this before, I'm overwhelmed by an unbelievable amount of hatred for him, yet, I couldn't be more in love. it's like I want to throw him out into traffic, then risk my life to save him...
He's the one I call in the middle of the night, he makes everything alright, he holds me when i cry, makes me smile, shares my dreams, wipes away my tears, loves me with no regret....
Love isnt a decision, it's a feeling. If we could decide who we would love it would be much simpler, but less magical...
love is not written on paper, for paper can be erased. nor is it etched in stone, for stone can be broken, but it is inscribed in the heart and there it shall remain forever...
fear? what is there to fear in love? love is the very reason we live. To fear love is to lose all sense of living and if we cannot love then why have we been put here? fearing love is like being afraid of breathing, its not something to be scared of, its something so natural that no one can resist.....
Everyone's afraid of something, that's how you know you care about things, when you're afraid you'll lose them -the bodyguard
When he's around, my whole body knows it.. I'll keep talking and stuff, but my mind will have no idea what I'm saying. I keep wondering if there's a term for this......
Giving someone all your love is enver an assurance that they'll love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn't .. be content that it grew in yours......
All I'm saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don't get him first, somebody else will, and you'll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband -when harry met sally
All of the best love stories have one thing in common, you have to go against the odds to get there.............
Dont give up fighting til nothing else stands in your way, dont give up talking until there's nothing left to say, but no matter what you do, dont ever compromise what you believe...
And although we adore men individually, we agree that as a group they're rather stupid -Marry poppins
The heart feels what the eyes cant see ..and what the mind will never understand...
Why does he have to be like that? so easy for me to fall in love with...
You can't help who it is you fall in love with, whether they're older younger, taller or shorter, completely opposite, or just like you...
**** To fall in love you must first conquer friendship...****
(GIRLS, WE HAVE FORGOTTEN THIS... MAYBE THATS WHY WE HAVE BEEN FAILING AT OUR RELATIONSHIPS... )
Impossible love is always the most romantic....
He'll only break your heart, it's a fact. And even though I warn you, even though I guarantee you that the boy will only hurt you terribly, you'll still pursue him, ain't love grand?
Love that is not madness is not love...
What if finding the love of your life, meant changing the life that you loved?
You can close your eyes to things you dont want to see but you can never close your heart to things you dont want to feel...
A man should not touch a woman's body, until he has touched her heart...
Love is not the absence of emotion, but the whole summation of feeling...
Always have hope for the guy that turns around one last time when he walks away...
If you hold back feelings because your afraid of being hurt, you end up hurting anyway...
The only reward for love is the experience of loving....
Sometimes you won't let go of love...More times love won't let go of you...
The worst thing you can do for love is to deny it. So when you find that special someone, don't let anyone or anything stand in your way...
In the end all things surrender to feeling...
There are some things I know for certain. Always throw salt over your left shoulder...keep rosemary by your garden gate...plant lavender for luck...and fall in love whenever you can -Practical Magic
Nothing is impossible to a willing heart...
Love and electricity are one in the same, my dear.. if you do not feel the jolt in your soul every time a kiss is shared, a whisper is spoken, a touch is felt, then you're not really in love...
Love makes us all a little weaker, but in the end we all turn out a little stronger...
If a relationship is going to evolve, it must go through a series of endings...
You know when you're singing along with this song, and you know all the words cause you really love it. Then a train passes or a door closes, and you can't hear the music anymore, but you keep singing anyway. Then, when you can hear it again, you're still perfectly in time with it. Well, that's what love is....
Do you ever just put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that's what love is like; everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but for some reason you just keep going -practical magic
I wanted to give you a kiss, but I couldn't. I wanted to give you a hug, but I couldn't. I at least wanted to hold your hand, but I couldn't do that either, because you are so far away. So I gave you the one thing I could. My heart... (AIN'T THIS THE TRUTH)
To get a woman's heart, a man must first use his own...
We kiss. And it feels like we have just shrugged off the world -Jim Shahin
That's what love is all about- recklessly hurting each other, insanley loving each other...
Now some people say that you shouldn't tempt fate, and for them I would not disagree, but I never learned anything from playing it safe, I say fate should not tempt me...
I guess nobody ever really does mean to fall in love. But it happens and love brands itself on your brain. It's like a new street appearing overnight in the city you've lived in your whole life. The street is one way; you can't turn around and get off it. It curves up ahead so that you can only see far enough to know that you're heading into the unknown...
I've never felt like this before, I'm overwhelmed by an unbelievable amount of hatred for him, yet, I couldn't be more in love. it's like I want to throw him out into traffic, then risk my life to save him...
He's the one I call in the middle of the night, he makes everything alright, he holds me when i cry, makes me smile, shares my dreams, wipes away my tears, loves me with no regret....
Love isnt a decision, it's a feeling. If we could decide who we would love it would be much simpler, but less magical...
love is not written on paper, for paper can be erased. nor is it etched in stone, for stone can be broken, but it is inscribed in the heart and there it shall remain forever...
fear? what is there to fear in love? love is the very reason we live. To fear love is to lose all sense of living and if we cannot love then why have we been put here? fearing love is like being afraid of breathing, its not something to be scared of, its something so natural that no one can resist.....
Everyone's afraid of something, that's how you know you care about things, when you're afraid you'll lose them -the bodyguard
When he's around, my whole body knows it.. I'll keep talking and stuff, but my mind will have no idea what I'm saying. I keep wondering if there's a term for this......
Giving someone all your love is enver an assurance that they'll love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn't .. be content that it grew in yours......
All I'm saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don't get him first, somebody else will, and you'll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband -when harry met sally
All of the best love stories have one thing in common, you have to go against the odds to get there.............
Dont give up fighting til nothing else stands in your way, dont give up talking until there's nothing left to say, but no matter what you do, dont ever compromise what you believe...
And although we adore men individually, we agree that as a group they're rather stupid -Marry poppins
The heart feels what the eyes cant see ..and what the mind will never understand...
Why does he have to be like that? so easy for me to fall in love with...
You can't help who it is you fall in love with, whether they're older younger, taller or shorter, completely opposite, or just like you...
**** To fall in love you must first conquer friendship...****
(GIRLS, WE HAVE FORGOTTEN THIS... MAYBE THATS WHY WE HAVE BEEN FAILING AT OUR RELATIONSHIPS... )
Impossible love is always the most romantic....
He'll only break your heart, it's a fact. And even though I warn you, even though I guarantee you that the boy will only hurt you terribly, you'll still pursue him, ain't love grand?
Love that is not madness is not love...
What if finding the love of your life, meant changing the life that you loved?
You can close your eyes to things you dont want to see but you can never close your heart to things you dont want to feel...
A man should not touch a woman's body, until he has touched her heart...
Love is not the absence of emotion, but the whole summation of feeling...
Always have hope for the guy that turns around one last time when he walks away...
If you hold back feelings because your afraid of being hurt, you end up hurting anyway...
The only reward for love is the experience of loving....
Sometimes you won't let go of love...More times love won't let go of you...
The worst thing you can do for love is to deny it. So when you find that special someone, don't let anyone or anything stand in your way...
In the end all things surrender to feeling...
There are some things I know for certain. Always throw salt over your left shoulder...keep rosemary by your garden gate...plant lavender for luck...and fall in love whenever you can -Practical Magic
Nothing is impossible to a willing heart...
Love and electricity are one in the same, my dear.. if you do not feel the jolt in your soul every time a kiss is shared, a whisper is spoken, a touch is felt, then you're not really in love...
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