The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh! too little, driv e too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
~george carlin
found this...
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.(Yes, that includes getting pregnant gurl...)
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
5. Slower is better.
6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
7. Have goals and be self sufficient. The last thing u need is to be trapped in a relationship just cause u need him to survive.
8. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then, heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
9. Don't settle.
10. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
11. Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
12. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
13. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
14. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
15. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
16. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
17. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
18. Never try to pin a man down, ultimatums don't work.
19. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
20. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
21. Never let a man define who you are.
22. Never borrow someone else's man.
23. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
24. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
25. All men are NOT dogs.
26. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. Any relationship must b mutual for it to work.
27. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
28. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
28. Dating can be fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
29. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
30. Never move into his mother's house.
31. Never co-sign for a man. (Hallelujah, thank you Jesus!)
32. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
33. If you are dating a man more than 6 months and never met his friends or family YOU ARE NOT HIS GIRL.
34. Love is wonderful
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
5. Slower is better.
6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
7. Have goals and be self sufficient. The last thing u need is to be trapped in a relationship just cause u need him to survive.
8. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then, heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
9. Don't settle.
10. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
11. Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
12. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
13. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
14. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
15. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
16. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
17. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
18. Never try to pin a man down, ultimatums don't work.
19. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
20. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
21. Never let a man define who you are.
22. Never borrow someone else's man.
23. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
24. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
25. All men are NOT dogs.
26. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. Any relationship must b mutual for it to work.
27. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
28. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
28. Dating can be fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
29. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
30. Never move into his mother's house.
31. Never co-sign for a man. (Hallelujah, thank you Jesus!)
32. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
33. If you are dating a man more than 6 months and never met his friends or family YOU ARE NOT HIS GIRL.
34. Love is wonderful
again...
And finally, the most important breakup rule, no matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you'll never get through it without your friends... ~carrie bradshaw...
Patience? Is it really a virtue? Or a defense? I do not know.
I don't care for the truth because it comes in ugly packages. Andits scary. Besides everyone always knows the truth anyway. They just choose to ignore it. Because it seldom does any good…..
Sometimes we make stories about our lives and keep believing them until these stories become a reality . till all our senses, our thinking, our existence get infiltrated. we only realize too late, and sometimes, we do not realize at all.
Should i be ashamed? of having loved recklessly. or having recklessly named lust as love…? I do not know. I am confused. But I do know this… I am what I am. Because of all who came before him. Because of him… And I will be who I will be because of all those who might be coming after him….
The other day it rained… I sat outside and let it fall on my face…no hesitation to stay dry… I looked down and saw a rock
and toss into the dark brown puddle that had formed from the rain... Watch the ripples…. And see the surface getting quite again… Life is like that…
"Love is just like having a relationship with fireWhy couldn't you understand that it would only sting you laterWhat happened to me? where were my senses?Why did I ever love the one who would never love me back…"
Songs… they sometimes just spell out the words in your head and in your heart…
I don't care for the truth because it comes in ugly packages. Andits scary. Besides everyone always knows the truth anyway. They just choose to ignore it. Because it seldom does any good…..
Sometimes we make stories about our lives and keep believing them until these stories become a reality . till all our senses, our thinking, our existence get infiltrated. we only realize too late, and sometimes, we do not realize at all.
Should i be ashamed? of having loved recklessly. or having recklessly named lust as love…? I do not know. I am confused. But I do know this… I am what I am. Because of all who came before him. Because of him… And I will be who I will be because of all those who might be coming after him….
The other day it rained… I sat outside and let it fall on my face…no hesitation to stay dry… I looked down and saw a rock
and toss into the dark brown puddle that had formed from the rain... Watch the ripples…. And see the surface getting quite again… Life is like that…
"Love is just like having a relationship with fireWhy couldn't you understand that it would only sting you laterWhat happened to me? where were my senses?Why did I ever love the one who would never love me back…"
Songs… they sometimes just spell out the words in your head and in your heart…
buddha belly...
The world, indeed, is like a dream and the treasures of the world are an alluring mirage! Like the apparent distances in a picture, things have no reality in themselves, but they are like heat haze.
On life's journey faith is nourishment, virtuous deeds are a shelter, wisdom is the light by day and right mindfulness is the protection by night. If a man lives a pure life, nothing can destroy him.
~Buddha~
On life's journey faith is nourishment, virtuous deeds are a shelter, wisdom is the light by day and right mindfulness is the protection by night. If a man lives a pure life, nothing can destroy him.
~Buddha~
oh heck yeah...
i guess my pretentious attitude towards him for the past several days finally paid off.
not that i intend to do this all the time but yes, maybe sometimes you just need to be invisible for a while so people can get to notice your “existence” more.
i thought this will just be another one of those days when i won’t be getting any sort of message from him…
it was late when he finally sent me a message and not being able to reply soon enough actually made him call instead.... it turned out that he had wanted to watch the game tonight and to have dinner... aside from the fact that i am desperately trying to keep myself from communicating too much, all the more, going out with him…
i just finished my sandwich a few seconds before he called. (and now you know why i wasn’t able to reply to his message sooner…do not disturb sign is up when i’m eating…haha)
i told him i wanted just home but he insisted to see me.
i know i should’ve said no…well, i did once but he insisted and okay, i honestly wanted to see him too.
so after a couple of minutes more, he texted me to go down and meet him at the corner.
when i saw his car coming towards me, i was thinking “i know i should not see him, but i miss him…this won’t take long.” i opened the door and even before i could sit down, he gave me the flowers. all i managed to say was “what is this for?” but deep inside, i was really happy.
i asked myself “when was the last time i got flowers."and yeah, that was like in high school, (shrugs)
i wanted to hug him and show him how much i miss him, but i didn’t. and God knows how hard i was trying not to.
i’ve decided to give him the space he asked for and i’m still convinced that what we have now won’t be going anywhere unless we both work hard on it.
and so like i’ve said, it didnt take long.
he brought me back to the house and he went to dinner.
i know i should be really happy about what happened, don’t get me wrong…i am happy, but its just that somehow it gives me the idea that he’s like that when we have issues and i decide to distance myself for a while…when it gets fixed, he’ll just go back to his old self. and there goes the never-ending cycle..yadah-yadah…
not that i intend to do this all the time but yes, maybe sometimes you just need to be invisible for a while so people can get to notice your “existence” more.
i thought this will just be another one of those days when i won’t be getting any sort of message from him…
it was late when he finally sent me a message and not being able to reply soon enough actually made him call instead.... it turned out that he had wanted to watch the game tonight and to have dinner... aside from the fact that i am desperately trying to keep myself from communicating too much, all the more, going out with him…
i just finished my sandwich a few seconds before he called. (and now you know why i wasn’t able to reply to his message sooner…do not disturb sign is up when i’m eating…haha)
i told him i wanted just home but he insisted to see me.
i know i should’ve said no…well, i did once but he insisted and okay, i honestly wanted to see him too.
so after a couple of minutes more, he texted me to go down and meet him at the corner.
when i saw his car coming towards me, i was thinking “i know i should not see him, but i miss him…this won’t take long.” i opened the door and even before i could sit down, he gave me the flowers. all i managed to say was “what is this for?” but deep inside, i was really happy.
i asked myself “when was the last time i got flowers."and yeah, that was like in high school, (shrugs)
i wanted to hug him and show him how much i miss him, but i didn’t. and God knows how hard i was trying not to.
i’ve decided to give him the space he asked for and i’m still convinced that what we have now won’t be going anywhere unless we both work hard on it.
and so like i’ve said, it didnt take long.
he brought me back to the house and he went to dinner.
i know i should be really happy about what happened, don’t get me wrong…i am happy, but its just that somehow it gives me the idea that he’s like that when we have issues and i decide to distance myself for a while…when it gets fixed, he’ll just go back to his old self. and there goes the never-ending cycle..yadah-yadah…
I am not alone!!
They call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.”
It is when youstop going along with the crowd and start realizingthat there are many things about yourself that youdidn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you willbe in a year or two, but then get scared because youbarely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that,maybe, those friends that you thought you were soclose to aren’t exactly the greatest people you haveever met, and the people you have lost touch with aresome of the most important ones.
What you don’trecognize is that they are realizing that too, andaren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but thatthey are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close towhat you thought you would be doing, or maybe you arelooking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you havecertain boundaries in your life and are constantlyadding things to your list of what is acceptable andwhat isn’t.
One minute, you are insecure and then thenext, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of yourlife.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling onto the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there isnothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone youloved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bedand wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enoughthat you want to get to know better. Or maybe you lovesomeone but love someone else too and cannot figureout why you are doing this because you know that youaren’t a bad person. One night stands and random hookups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to lookpathetic. You go through the same emotions andquestions over and over, and talk with your friendsabout the same topics because you cannot seem tomake a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making alife for yourself… and while winning the race wouldbe great, right now you’d just like to be a contender!What you may not realize is that everyone reading thisrelates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times,trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thingout.
It is when youstop going along with the crowd and start realizingthat there are many things about yourself that youdidn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you willbe in a year or two, but then get scared because youbarely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that,maybe, those friends that you thought you were soclose to aren’t exactly the greatest people you haveever met, and the people you have lost touch with aresome of the most important ones.
What you don’trecognize is that they are realizing that too, andaren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but thatthey are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close towhat you thought you would be doing, or maybe you arelooking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you havecertain boundaries in your life and are constantlyadding things to your list of what is acceptable andwhat isn’t.
One minute, you are insecure and then thenext, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of yourlife.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling onto the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there isnothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone youloved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bedand wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enoughthat you want to get to know better. Or maybe you lovesomeone but love someone else too and cannot figureout why you are doing this because you know that youaren’t a bad person. One night stands and random hookups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to lookpathetic. You go through the same emotions andquestions over and over, and talk with your friendsabout the same topics because you cannot seem tomake a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making alife for yourself… and while winning the race wouldbe great, right now you’d just like to be a contender!What you may not realize is that everyone reading thisrelates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times,trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thingout.
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